Thursday, April 15, 2010
Michal, the Wife
Michal's choice was her husband. I Samuel 19:11Saul also sent messengers unto David's house, to watch him, and to slay him in the morning: and Michal David's wife told him, saying, If thou save not thy life to night, to morrow thou shalt be slain. 12So Michal let David down through a window: and he went, and fled, and escaped. 13And Michal took an image, and laid it in the bed, and put a pillow of goats' hair for his bolster, and covered it with a cloth. 14And when Saul sent messengers to take David, she said, He is sick. 15And Saul sent the messengers again to see David, saying, Bring him up to me in the bed, that I may slay him. 16And when the messengers were come in, behold, there was an image in the bed, with a pillow of goats' hair for his bolster. 17And Saul said unto Michal, Why hast thou deceived me so, and sent away mine enemy, that he is escaped? And Michal answered Saul, He said unto me, Let me go; why should I kill thee?
Michal lied to her father about David threatening to kill her, and saved the life of the one she loved. We then do not see Michal appear until chapter 25 when we are told that she was given to Phalti to wife. As women in a society where we are emancipated, it is so hard to fathom this concept. However, she now found herself given to another man. I have often wondered what kind of man Phalti was. His name means "pillar", so I think he must have been a strong man. He must have been influential since the king saw fit to give him his daughter to marry. I wonder how long Michal was married to him. One thing I do know is that she is not mentioned again until II Samuel chapter 3 where we read that David has at least 6 wives by this point, and "there was long war between the house of Saul and the house of David." It had been no short period of time. Theologians could probably tell you the number of years, but I won't venture a guess here.
So, here we are, years later, Michal is the wife of a man named Phalti, her father has died, her first husband was about to become King of all Israel, and he demands her return to him. I have often been puzzled by this. Michal must have been beautiful, sweet, and desirable for David to want her back. But there was a problem... 2 Samuel 3:15And Ishbosheth sent, and took her from her husband, even from Phaltiel the son of Laish. 16And her husband went with her along weeping behind her to Bahurim. Then said Abner unto him, Go, return. And he returned. Both men wanted her, and she had no choice but to follow orders as any woman in her day would have to do. The fact that Phalti followed her weeping must have been hard for her. I think she must have started to turn that love she once had for David into hate, as there can be a fine line between the two, and this must have been the point where she started to resent this man she once called her love. At least, that's what this Michal (yours truly) would have done. I'd start construction on a wall of protection so as not to get so hurt again, and let apathy have it's way in a relationship. We see this happen with our Michal, David's wife.